When working with this law you
may find that when attempting to balance the duality you will end up attracting
the opposite of what you want.
For the moment you call in that which you are seeking to
balance, everything in its opposite will come tumbling into your life. If you are seeking more clarity, confusion will
seem to reign supreme. Nothing
will seem to be clear anymore, and you will wonder why you ever started on this
journey. Yet,
if you continue to work on changing your thinking and your belief
patterns you will reach the balance point. This is what the Law of Duality is all about. It is about reaching a balance point. It is not about operating at either extreme. It is about remaining at your Centre even when the
hurricane of life is swirling around you.
Imagine your most disgraceful moment and then imagine
yourself at ease in it, sitting quietly while the leaves of worry float away in
the breeze. Feeling sad about your losses will only way you down. Accept your
desire without coveting or needing that which you want.
What is duality?
How many
times have you determined that you or another were wrong, or right for that
matter?
Have you experienced this duality of wrong and right daily, hourly or every moment of your life?
Duality is the concept and experience of life where one chooses to judge people, places and things. In doing so, one takes sides with either the right side or the wrong side.
This is usually not something that is turned off and on like a light switch at will. Typically, one lives from duality (ego) consciousness or they live from soul (unity) consciousness.
Have you experienced this duality of wrong and right daily, hourly or every moment of your life?
Duality is the concept and experience of life where one chooses to judge people, places and things. In doing so, one takes sides with either the right side or the wrong side.
This is usually not something that is turned off and on like a light switch at will. Typically, one lives from duality (ego) consciousness or they live from soul (unity) consciousness.
There is
only one world, one people, one creation, one choice. But humanity, as a
collective, has split the quality and value of people's choices into two
categories. This split is “duality consciousness” when really there is simply
“choice”.
All citizens of Earth choose each choice or make each decision the best they can give their life experiences and so each choice, truly, is a right choice and good enough for that person at that time.
Moving from duality to non-judgmental, unity consciousness will save energy, time and create world peace.
All citizens of Earth choose each choice or make each decision the best they can give their life experiences and so each choice, truly, is a right choice and good enough for that person at that time.
Moving from duality to non-judgmental, unity consciousness will save energy, time and create world peace.
Let’s start by introducing the paradoxical world in terms that
we understand on a day-to-day basis: life sucks sometimes. The pitfalls of
reality can pull us into the thresholds of suffering, depression, delusion and
sometimes feelings of guilt and failure. This is a negative way to start an
article, but it’s the truth. We’ve all been there. We’ve all felt the hurt, the
ache, the headache, the dull pain of unfortunate events, or even worse, the
lack of events – boredom.
The point being, we have all, in one way or another, been uncomfortable and experienced something that didn’t feel so good in the mind and/or the body. Here is the upside, the other side, the alternative thought: we live in a paradoxical reality. There are two sides to every coin. Every failure exists as the counter of success, every pain counters the great feeling of comfort in the body.
The point being, we have all, in one way or another, been uncomfortable and experienced something that didn’t feel so good in the mind and/or the body. Here is the upside, the other side, the alternative thought: we live in a paradoxical reality. There are two sides to every coin. Every failure exists as the counter of success, every pain counters the great feeling of comfort in the body.
Why is
understanding the Duality significant?
Understanding the duality of
all things is important because it allows us to see from other perspectives.
The more important part of understanding the duality is seeing that all
perceptions are RELATIVE and therefore separate from the inherent, physical reality.
There is the distinction that the mind is not the body and vice versa; we can
perceive the world, but we will never know it.
Examples of
Duality in Perspective
The True Color of The Flower
I see a flower, it is
turquoise. A colour-blind man sees a flower, it is light-green. A dog sees a
flower it is dark blue. A blind man doesn’t see the flower. A woman born with
more cone photoreceptors in her eyes can see a spectrum of more colors: she
says it’s “_____” (not yet identified color). They are all looking at the same
flower. These are all relative observations, so who is to conclusively describe
the color of the flower? Nobody. Not even one knows the true color of the
flower, but at the same time they all know the color of the flower. The flower
is all colors, and it is but one.
*Key point: The body’s perception of the
flower is distorted, so the reality experienced by the mind becomes only
relative. Because each of our experiences of the universe must first pass
through a flawed medium (the physical self), the final experience we receive is
impure and diluted. The colors they each see are real and false at the same
time. Each person witnesses a different color. What is the true property of the
flower itself? Does it have no color? Or is it all colors? The answer to this lies in the
realm of the absolute, something our physical bodies cannot translate or
experience.
What Happened When the Man Was Shot
A man is shot in the back,
killed instantly by a passer-by. There are several witnesses, and this is what
they say. A woman says that it happened very quickly and that it looked
painless and calculated, as horrible as it was. A child says that it was the
longest happening he has ever seen; he wonders why no one saved the person. A
man says that this was a tragedy, and that “random” and “senseless” violence is
disgusting and pitiful. A man says he saw the gunman earlier pacing back and
forth near a bus stop, like he was planning something. One last girl says that
she knew the man who was shot: it was an ex-boyfriend that abused her; she says
it was good riddance. The perceptions they have made are both true and untrue.
*Key point: It is both random and not
random depending on perspective. The perspective makes your personal
observation true and untrue. It is random if you believe it to be, but it is
also not random. The tragic nature of the killing is also a perception.
Something is tragic only in relation to one’s own beliefs. Is it tragic that
the man died? It is all perspective. The variable of time also comes into play:
time just is, but it is also perceived and measured at varying levels. To say
that something happened quickly or slowly is a perception of time. Time only
flows at one speed but is perceived on infinitely different levels.
My House
I have a house. I say the
house is worth $100,000. A real estate appraiser says it’s only worth $90,000.
A monk says it’s worth nothing. A monopoly owner says it’s worth $300,000 and
he’s willing to pay cash upfront for it. A bird flies by and shits on it and
doesn’t consider its worth whatsoever. A kid, who is the son of the previous
owner, thinks that there is no price that can match the value that it means to
him because he has lived there his whole life until his family moved out. Who
is right?
*Key point: They are all right and none of
them are right. The house has no inherent value because all the values given to
it are relative to the person ascribing the value. The relative nature of value
means that there are no true values for anything because everything is based on
perspective. This is the separation of mind and matter. Because these values
are relative, the house itself has no set value; it can be changed at any time.
The significance of this very liberal nature of values is covered in my last
point below.
The Relative and the Absolute – The Nature of Duality
The duality is what separates
truth into two parts, two parts of the same whole: the perceived, relative
truth, and the inherent, absolute truth. If something is perceived, the
absolute truth cannot be understood. Absolute truth lies beyond the perception,
because perception is only one filter that can be used to view something (it is
merely one angle and not all angles).
“Dark would not
exist without the light”
On those dark days, we sometimes
forget that the dark would not exist without the light. That deathly hangover
came from a wild night of endorphin-raging inhibition; the dark and stormy
skies precede a heavy rain that makes the greens greener and the harvests
plenty.
“Beauty exists only because there is ugliness.”
The Tao Te Ching offers another perspective of this duality that
we are constantly experiencing but often fail to see. He brings to light the
paradoxical unity that exists right beneath our noses. He notes that, “beauty
exists only because there is ugliness.” We create these judgements and duality
belief systems without even knowing it. We love to label and categorize things
as negative vs. positive, or right vs. wrong. It’s part of our nature.
What the Tao suggests is that we find oneness and unity within these paradoxes,
within the ugly and the beautiful, the happy and the sad, the negative and the
positive. This is a ‘big picture’ perspective, often hard to truly incorporate
into the perception of your day-to-day life, but I encourage you to try it.
This unity is the understanding and acceptance of both sides. The Tao tells us to live “openly with the apparent duality and paradoxical unity.” This suggestion, translated into our modern-day world, is: JUST BE, ACT WITHOUT EFFORT, ACCEPT WHAT IS. Accept the good and the bad, appreciate that every emotion and every feeling has two sides. Be aware of the dualities in your daily life and give thanks for the bad, because it would not exist without the good.
This unity is the understanding and acceptance of both sides. The Tao tells us to live “openly with the apparent duality and paradoxical unity.” This suggestion, translated into our modern-day world, is: JUST BE, ACT WITHOUT EFFORT, ACCEPT WHAT IS. Accept the good and the bad, appreciate that every emotion and every feeling has two sides. Be aware of the dualities in your daily life and give thanks for the bad, because it would not exist without the good.
Duality handling in Bhagwat
Gita
It points to Gita - equilibrium of mind in all situations. Not
to get shocked with surprise because world is like that. Nothing can surprise
us. Because things should be taken as it is without any likes and dislikes.
1. Never share your aims and
goals with others.
2. Work hard in silence, make
your success look effortless.
3. Never get emotional with
someone who isn't too close to you.
4. Let go of your ego, but not
your self-respect. There is a fine line between the two.
5. Never be available to a person
all the time. People tend to take things which come easily, for granted
6. Never hurt your parents for
others. You might get a replacement for that person in your life, but your
parents will never find a replacement for you.
7. Never speak too much. The less
you talk, the more it is valued.
8. Never fail to appreciate a
person who deserves it. You'll find the happiness in it once you start doing
it.
9. Never waste your life living other
dreams.
10.Never share your success with
people who won't be happy about it.
